Today is Valentine’s Day. The day of Love....
The world has convinced us, as a single person that this is one of the days we should dread. Doomsday. The day that continues to remind you once a year how alone in this life you are.
If you feel that way about Valentine’s Day, then this post is undoubtedly for you.
I will just say suck it up.
Valentine Day is just that, a day, and there are two things I think you should fall in love with before you fall in love with your forever someone.
1. Fall in Love with Jesus
Ask yourself, do you love Jesus? Then ask yourself are you in love with Jesus?
There is a difference between the two. I have found times in my life where I have loved Him but I wasn’t in love with Him. Because when you are in love with someone, you can't shut up about them, you can’t stop thinking about. You dream about them. You can’t wait to see them, talk to them, to put plainly you are obsessed with them.
Once you fall in Love with Him, changes occur; then your life becomes in line with Christ. And when your are one with Christ, his desires for your life are your desires, and the rest will take care of itself.
If you are reading this and you are a non-believer, I won’t preach at you. But I will tell you, our sole reason for being created was to love God. So to not love Him, is to have this hole, that no amount worldly pleasure will ever be able fill.
2. Fall in Love with Your Life & Yourself
Life can be depressing if you don’t love it. If you are not in love with your life, or yourself. Change things.
Change your attitude
If you are love with Jesus it is a lot easier to change your attitude, then if you are not. I have recently undergone the attitude change, and I am still working on it. But when you do change your attitude, your everyday tasks become more bearable maybe even enjoyable. You look forward to your day, instead of dreading it . And the little bumps in the road are just bumps not car wrecks.
Change your job.
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle.”
― Steve Jobs
Now don’t go to work Monday, and quit because some girl quoted Steve Jobs on the internet.
If you don’t like your job, figure out what you do like, and find a career that has that. If you need a degree, go back to school, if you need experience, get some. Never quit a job, until you have new one, because that will put you behind so far financially, and will make you love your life a little less.
Change the way you feel about being alone
This is easy for me, because I find it a must to have alone time. But some people don't prefer it.
Learn to enjoy it, it becomes peaceful and restful.
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
- Olivia Wilde
Change your finances
Debt sucks, especially if you have a lot. Dave Ramsey has excellent advice to give on finances, and you can get his tapes pretty cheap on ebay. The thing that struck me most about him was his snowball.
“The idea of the snowball is simple: pay minimum payments on all of your debts except for the smallest one. Then, attack that one with gazelle intensity! Every extra dollar you can get your hands on should be thrown at that smallest debt until it is gone. Then, you attack the second one. Every time you pay a debt off, you add its old minimum payment to your next debt payments. So, as the snowball rolls over, it picks up more snow.”
- Dave Ramsey
You may say I have no extra cash. There is always a little extra to be found. You may have to get second job. You just have to decide if you really want be out of debt.
Change your Health
I don’t mean go on a diet. I mean life style change. Long lasting changes, not short term. If you don’t understand how to be healthy, educate yourself. There is so much information out there on health. Dive in, find what you like and what fits; then work towards those changes.
Change your relationships.
"We would do ourselves a tremendous favor by letting go of the people who poison our spirit."
- Dr. Steve Maraboli
Sometime you are in situations where you are unable to remove people, because they are your family, your spouse, your kids. Fall in love with Jesus, in time He will change you, He will change them.
He will take of the rest.
Now I need to go, because I need to get busy taking my own advice.